tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post8383572477391614206..comments2024-03-16T04:07:17.971-04:00Comments on Gifted Challenges™: 25 signs your gifted child is misunderstood at schoolGail Post, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-58910253998316262822018-04-18T14:42:10.112-04:002018-04-18T14:42:10.112-04:00Cornelia, I've noticed the shy/aggressive beh...Cornelia, I've noticed the shy/aggressive behavior contrast for years. Both of my boys behave exceptionally well at school and then melt down when they get home. It's so sad, because I KNOW it's that they are working so hard on self control all day that they just feel relief at being home and able to be themselves. This has improved this year as my eldest is in private school now and the younger is very involved with band and so has an outlet for his emotions. Thanks for sharing this aspect. I've always thought it must be related to their introversion, but maybe it's the gifted aspect too, because they are just working super hard on fitting in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-31180644551840485132017-01-13T09:02:04.911-05:002017-01-13T09:02:04.911-05:00Sara, Thanks for sharing your experience. Sorry yo...Sara, Thanks for sharing your experience. Sorry you went through this, but I'm glad your children aren't going through it!Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-26835114766210527992017-01-12T22:59:13.341-05:002017-01-12T22:59:13.341-05:00My kids are homeschooled so we don't see much ...My kids are homeschooled so we don't see much of this in their lives. But me? Most of these describe my school life to a t. I didn't know it then, I just believed what I was told, that I was a smart yet lazy student who didn't apply herself enough... Through my kids, now I know myself better. <br />Thank you for this list, it's spot on. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06075216202651760441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-47947906178678944152016-11-11T07:07:31.981-05:002016-11-11T07:07:31.981-05:00thanks for this! it was amazing!thanks for this! it was amazing!???https://www.blogger.com/profile/03049562896489955566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-14664917567604874542016-05-29T04:53:12.565-04:002016-05-29T04:53:12.565-04:00You hear about bullying teachers too often... So ...You hear about bullying teachers too often... So sad Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09562706609775279082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-60468052624455316992016-05-29T04:48:02.753-04:002016-05-29T04:48:02.753-04:00Absolutely! Absolutely! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09562706609775279082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-24007340680342983262016-04-13T18:38:30.421-04:002016-04-13T18:38:30.421-04:00Sounds like a valuable intervention. Sometimes par...Sounds like a valuable intervention. Sometimes parents need to take action like this. Thanks for sharing what worked for your family.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-48621936590732784642016-04-13T15:47:08.310-04:002016-04-13T15:47:08.310-04:00I got got aggressively involved with my kid's ...I got got aggressively involved with my kid's school only once, when my 2E daughter was a freshman in HS and brought home a report card of D's and F's despite having the highest aptitude scores in the school. The school was absolutely clueless so I got together with the head of the Special Ed department at the local university and we wrote an accommodation plan for the school. They learned a lot, my daughter benefited greatly and I quietly faded back into the woodwork. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236985330422164482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-55126660704488489242016-04-13T12:57:48.727-04:002016-04-13T12:57:48.727-04:00"We are all a work in progress." So true..."We are all a work in progress." So true! Thank you, Christine - such good points.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-61790958573531327422016-04-13T12:55:38.141-04:002016-04-13T12:55:38.141-04:00No ideas to offer, Anonymous, but maybe someone el...No ideas to offer, Anonymous, but maybe someone else reading this in your location has some thoughts. Good luckGail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-54362552456324792152016-04-13T12:54:43.423-04:002016-04-13T12:54:43.423-04:00Good point about self-control, Anonymous. Schools ...Good point about self-control, Anonymous. Schools expect a lot from gifted children who are expected to sit quietly and wait while bored and miserable. When they understandably act up or complain, their behavior is challenged, they are labeled as having ADHD, or are seen as problem students. Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-78370590798103977662016-04-13T12:39:03.858-04:002016-04-13T12:39:03.858-04:00I've experience all of these between my two ki...I've experience all of these between my two kids. Heck, I've actually committed some of them - high expectations despite an ill fit anyone? We are all a work in progress. This is a good list to come back to from time to time, through various ages and stages. Christine Johnson-Staubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13085701228202217534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-73884826983742036202016-04-13T08:41:00.531-04:002016-04-13T08:41:00.531-04:00We live in Suburban D.C. area where the only gifte...We live in Suburban D.C. area where the only gifted options are if you are AT ALL able to become a big-time donor in one of the gazillion private schools. Color me sick of the politics! (NO gifted support groups so far as I have found) Therefore, telling my child I am her advocate is disheartening when no one's listening. This is going to get very tricky as she becomes a Tween... Does anyone know of any options in my area? Thank You:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-4427317632300992822016-04-12T09:22:50.944-04:002016-04-12T09:22:50.944-04:00#17 . . . not just overlooked for academic awards....#17 . . . not just overlooked for academic awards. These children are often overlooked for "character" awards as well because those awards are used to encourage appropriate behaviors. I think a child that always behaves and never causes problems in classrooms when they are never given an opportunity to learn new skills, constantly bored/frustrated, and are always expected to help other students deserve recognition for their self control. Overlooking these children's accomplishments (especially those that require effort on their part) is very damaging. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-51770021266603985732016-04-10T15:47:15.294-04:002016-04-10T15:47:15.294-04:00Beckie, Sorry you are also going through this with...Beckie, Sorry you are also going through this with your son. I hope that you can get him some help. Good luck.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-78657916613251338232016-04-09T00:13:44.914-04:002016-04-09T00:13:44.914-04:00Have the same problems with my son who is now 15 h...Have the same problems with my son who is now 15 he's gone to so many different schools now he has anger issues he has great grades..mostly As but no motivation not interested in anything it's very frustrating and the schools don't care or help it is really badBeckiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08713734717635888617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-62672478465996915062016-04-06T02:15:56.502-04:002016-04-06T02:15:56.502-04:00I recently pulled my son from school because his t...I recently pulled my son from school because his teacher was bullying him. She was always putting him on display and seeking him out for anything he did out of place. He LOVES homeschooling right now. I'm able to tailor his day to what is best for him. He spends much of his time working on various engineering projects I give him. He's calmer and his anxiety is so much better. I'm a single mom who works full time but it still works. Getting going on homeschooling is surprisingly easy. Good luck with choices.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00908592116135514199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-31144779176230501842016-03-28T20:17:40.459-04:002016-03-28T20:17:40.459-04:00Jennifer, Thanks so much for your comments. It sou...Jennifer, Thanks so much for your comments. It sounds like you are doing a great job advocating for your son, although it is always hard making inroads in a school that has trouble understanding kids like him. Good luck!Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-7440799899710060602016-03-25T17:34:16.620-04:002016-03-25T17:34:16.620-04:00My son is in first grade and on top of being gifte...My son is in first grade and on top of being gifted in many ways he is a high energy, kinetic child. What I have found are the subtle ways in which my son is made to be "the problem". He "interrupts the teacher", "needs so much attention", " needs to be the first one to answer everything". I could go on and on but the point being he doesn't fit into the mainstream, middle of the curve targeted teaching and therefore "HE is the problem". After recognizing the subtlety I've been able to have a different type of conversation with his teacher and other school administrators making sure to emphasize (in a diplomatic way) that he is not a problem..the system is and that they need to find a way to engage and teach everyone in the classroom not just the average students and students who need extra help. I've grateful for this organization and thank you for all the hard work you are doing to raise awareness of gifted children's needs. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03516648633625011767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-80056974992072115982016-03-25T15:47:50.368-04:002016-03-25T15:47:50.368-04:00Anonymous, Great point! Thanks.
GailAnonymous, Great point! Thanks.<br />GailGail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-12033375798771649672016-03-22T12:07:50.990-04:002016-03-22T12:07:50.990-04:00I would add . . . when a child is expected to comp...I would add . . . when a child is expected to complete differentiated or enrichment assignments on already mastered skills rather than provided with instruction and assignments in new skills.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-45041114778117645752016-03-17T19:34:12.988-04:002016-03-17T19:34:12.988-04:00Thanks so much, Anonymous. Good luck with your stu...Thanks so much, Anonymous. Good luck with your studies!Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-35196132047218258732016-03-17T14:52:12.529-04:002016-03-17T14:52:12.529-04:00thank you for this article, as a secondary school ...thank you for this article, as a secondary school student i can relate to these and it's nice to know that there are people that agree and are intellectual enough to understand the injustice of the school system, this has been really enjoyable to read and i am thankful that there still some decent people in the world :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-50246265163138305962016-03-12T12:40:31.710-05:002016-03-12T12:40:31.710-05:00Jeanette, Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking...Jeanette, Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking story. I am so sorry your son has suffered the negative effects of never being challenged. So many people who do not understand giftedness fail to appreciate the damaging effects of not receiving an appropriate education. It's not that parents are asking for something extra or special - they are asking for the basics so that their child does not suffer in school and does not continue to experience long-term effects. Thank you for sharing this, and good luck with your family.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-45658537541665955982016-03-12T11:56:27.304-05:002016-03-12T11:56:27.304-05:00My son was not challenged at primary school and wa...My son was not challenged at primary school and was given monitor tasks because he always finished his work well ahead and teachers were too busy to set projects that challenged or engaged him. We did many external gifted programs, but being bored all day in school took its toll and by the time he was in high school he was underachieving and no longer motivated to learn, becoming addicted to computer games and frequently skipping school. He was lucky to be so bright he got to university and graduated with Hons in Science. But the long term legacy was that he has no confidence in his ability and no persistence when it comes to really difficult problems. Having never been challenged in those early years, he is somehow never quite able to believe in himself and his abilities. Despite my best efforts ( and I was lecturing in this field at the time ) he never recovered from the disappointment of school in those early years. Now I'm hoping the same does not happen to his little boy who just started school this year. Every child has the right to an education to their full potential and gifted children are just as deserving as those with learning difficulties. Unfortunately the system is overloaded and often even well-meaning, excellent teachers are forced to make choices with their time energy and resources. Advocating for your gifted child is a most difficult issue for parents, but I would strongly urge parents to do so as the negative impact of these attitudes and issues on the child can be long term. JeanetteHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052104210317953741noreply@blogger.com