tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post5255376414625913444..comments2024-03-19T22:10:49.383-04:00Comments on Gifted Challenges™: Parents of young musicians: Finding community and supportGail Post, Ph.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-45214755883795679902016-10-11T13:49:22.121-04:002016-10-11T13:49:22.121-04:00Thanks so much, anonymous. It is a joy when your c...Thanks so much, anonymous. It is a joy when your children love (and play) music. It fills the house - and your heart. So appreciate your feedback. Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-12532269910478578742016-10-10T20:24:40.140-04:002016-10-10T20:24:40.140-04:00Wow... Amazing thoughts from caring people. I am ...Wow... Amazing thoughts from caring people. I am lucky to have 4 musically talented children that live and breathe love for all elements of music. Making a melody, learning a new piece, reaching each milestone and the camaraderie of it all! Thanks, Gail, for your thoughts and for having this site.<br />Rock on...whether it jazz, classical, drumline, classic rock, or marching band music!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-4636582759160245222016-09-28T19:32:39.214-04:002016-09-28T19:32:39.214-04:00Thank you for your heartfelt comments. Yes, many p...Thank you for your heartfelt comments. Yes, many people don't understand that a child can excel without parents pushing them. You make a good point, though, that it is often easier to discuss musical, athletic, or artistic talent than intellectual or academic abilities. <br /><br />I completely know what you mean about performances - parents hang on every note and just want their child to get through it without too much damage! Thanks again for your feedback.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-50274790748003316402016-09-28T17:37:51.069-04:002016-09-28T17:37:51.069-04:00I'm not religious but wanted my then young dau...I'm not religious but wanted my then young daughter to learn piano because I thought it would be good for her soul, something that was hers and perhaps an outlet for a variety of emotions, rather than something taught by school in order to pass exams. Because my daughter has both I can compare the academic side to the music. Because the music side doesn't depend on school there are none of the problems with pace and challenge etc., but I get the impression some people think she is only at her current level because we imposed a strict practice regime and perhaps threatened to burn a few stuffed animals (that notorious Amy Chua anecdote). In reality her practice is largely self-managed and she typically does less in a week than some children undertake per day, but she's still playing which may not have been the case if we had been 'pushier'. The interesting thing is that here in England many people who are very hostile to any kind of academic selection or ability grouping, seem quite content with that for music, dance, sport etc. I have significantly more social freedom to talk about more exceptional musical ability than I do about more exceptional ability in e.g. mathematics.<br /><br />Yes, public performances are very difficult to witness. There is very little room for mistakes and I just want her to get through a piece without tripping and falling to pieces. It's lovely when other people appreciate her playing, but unless it's an examiner for a grade examination that's the least of my concerns. "You must be so proud"? No, I'm just so relieved.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15218519804312731199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-86228327211558984352016-09-14T09:08:54.403-04:002016-09-14T09:08:54.403-04:00Emily, Thank you for your comments. I think that p...Emily, Thank you for your comments. I think that parenting any child who is exceptional in some way results in feeling separate from other parents. So important to find a sense of community in these situations.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-55674044161240288672016-09-12T17:55:56.172-04:002016-09-12T17:55:56.172-04:00Hi Gail, I really enjoyed your post! Thank you fo...Hi Gail, I really enjoyed your post! Thank you for the comparison to parenting of academically gifted children, also -- I am glad for your insight on both (sometimes overlapping) worlds. Thank you very much. Emily VRhttp://thefissureblog.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-10792301679653030612016-09-04T15:00:26.000-04:002016-09-04T15:00:26.000-04:00Thanks, Paula. I appreciate your feedback!Thanks, Paula. I appreciate your feedback!Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-64932568164935309852016-09-03T23:15:47.183-04:002016-09-03T23:15:47.183-04:00Very helpful, Gail. And a refreshingly different t...Very helpful, Gail. And a refreshingly different topic from what I'm used to. I'm not a parent but I always tear up when I hear kids playing music or singing. So touching. Thanks.Paula Proberhttp://rainforestmind.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-91811879405593026822016-09-02T09:02:17.531-04:002016-09-02T09:02:17.531-04:00Thanks, Jen. I think that any situation parents ha...Thanks, Jen. I think that any situation parents have to manage outside the norm brings its share of challenges. I appreciate your feedback.Gail Post, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01482577821092891593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6702344196398061245.post-3281270449049202402016-09-01T23:34:50.286-04:002016-09-01T23:34:50.286-04:00I love this analogy. It's something that I hav...I love this analogy. It's something that I have never considered before. (Probably because neither my children nor I are musicians.) Thanks for enlightening me so I am able to empathize with musical parents. Genealogy Jenhttp://repurposedgenealogy.comnoreply@blogger.com